Failure is an Instrument of Success.

"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts," so declared Winston Churchill. In Albert Einstein's words, "Failure is success in progress." Today, let's reflect on failure as an instrument of success. Do you know that failing in something is not the reason for you not succeeding? According to Ekaterina Walter, "It seems that failure tends to be more public than success. Or at least that’s what we perceive it to be. We fret it, we try to avoid it, and we question ourselves every time we have unconventional ideas. But the simple truth is – no great success was ever achieved without failure. It may be one epic failure. Or a series of failures – such as Edison's 10,000 attempts to create a light bulb or Dyson’s 5,126 attempts to invent a bagless vacuum cleaner. But, whether we like it or not, failure is a necessary stepping stone to achieving our dreams." The implication is that failure is not necessarily a problem. Rather, the issue is what you do with failure. John Wooden noted that "Failure isn’t fatal, but failure to change might be." George Clooney added, "The only failure is not to try." Robert Kennedy noted that “Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” Despite this, many don't dare to try anything they suspect they may fail. Paulo Coelho confirmed this when he said, "There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” Coco Chanel, therefore, noted that "Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” So, enhance your capacity to utilize failure as an instrument of success. As much as nobody deliberately desires failure, know, as Bill Gates did, "It's fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure." Ken Robinson thus counselled, "If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” The implication is that you should not see failure as a road block to success but as an instrument to enhance success. Gena Showalter, therefore, entreated, “Giving up is the only sure way to fail.” That might have been why Chris Bradford noted that "There is no failure except in no longer trying.” Denis Waitley counselled, "Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” Therefore, consider reframing what is considered as failure to enable failure work for, rather than against you. Learn from Thomas Edison, who declared, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” As you step out today, don't let failure fail you. Utilize what has not worked as expected as a learning opportunity to enhance your success. If you feel discouraged, let Winston Churchill note encourage you: "Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

The Rich Uncle

VERY HARD TO BE MAN!

 When you succeed to sleep after a tough day, you do not want to wake up when you think about the mountain of problems that you have to solve.

Nobody will service you for nothing, every favor you will receive, will fall from your hard work.

Your well-being is not the priority of anyone, and everybody does not care about what you feel inside.

Most of the time, you will be alone to face adversity, lost in your thoughts, full of rage, pain and depression.

Every day is a new combat with its challenges, its pressures and numerous demands to be satisfied.

Women do not care about your pain; your peers do not worry about your suffering. You have to fight alone to make it out.

Society does not care about what a man thinks and feels, she is more misandrist.

You value depends on what you have already accomplished or depends on what you will accomplish. It is in function of this that people will give you respect.

It is hard to be man, sometimes you blame yourself harshly, you want to be far away from yourself.

Your responsibilities are very voluminous and scary, you do not have enough strong shoulders for all this, but you have no one to turn to.

You feel the need the need to cry, but the idea that society will see you as a weak man, a crybaby, a weakling, even makes you more scared.

The truth is that your tears do not signify anything to anyone, on the contrary it will be used by your enemies, to better weaken you.

While people think that everything is going splendid for you, at the bottom yourself is a slow death.

This ode to men, is destined to censor and comfort, because I am one of them and I know what we are subjected to everyday. Men endure innumerable sufferings, but society, has no sympathy for our pain.

When you are born a man, you are made to suffer your whole life. Knowing that no one will come to your rescue, is demoralizing, you will always be alone against all odds...

Women are funny to me

 Women are funny to me.

1- He is the one who lost you, but you are the one crying everywhere.

2- He will never find another woman like you, but you are the one supervising his every move and gesture, secretly wishing for a reconciliation.

3- You are very beautiful woman who cannot lack guys, but you are unable to digest your separation.

4- You do not have anything to reproach yourself,you are right all the way,but why do want to justify yourself so much?

5- You say you are a woman of value, a woman of substance, but why are so hurt, when a man who did not deserve you, decide to breakup with you?

Can a woman of value lack serious suitors?

What killed the Frog 🐸

 Put a frog in a vessel of water and start heating the water.

 As the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly.

 The frog keeps on adjusting with increase in temperature...

 Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore...

 At that point the frog decides to jump out...

 The frog tries to jump but is unable to do so, because it has lost all its strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature...

 Very soon the frog dies.

 What killed the frog?

 Many of us would say the boiling water...

 But the truth is what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when it had to jump out.

 We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to confront/face.

 There are times when we need to face the situation and take the appropriate action...

 If we allow people to exploit us physically, mentally, emotionally or financially, they will continue to do so...

 We have to decide when to jump.

 Let us jump while we still have the strength.

 Think on It !!

How Overthinking Kills from within

 SEE HOW OVERTHINKING IS KILLING YOU...

Overthinking means to think too much about (something): to put too much time into thinking about or analyzing (something) in a way that is more harmful than helpful.

Overthinkers may have trouble distinguishing between the fear of making a mistake, which leads to overthinking to the point where they make no decision, and a deep feeling that something is wrong. 

Knowing if fear or intuition is guiding your behavior will help you get out of your head and take the next necessary steps.

SIGNS THAT YOU OVERTHINK

▶️Difficulty following along with and contributing to a conversation because you go over potential responses or statements time and again until the conversation has either ended or the window of opportunity for speaking was lost

▶️Continually comparing yourself to the people around you and how you measure up to them

▶️Focusing on worst-case scenarios either involving yourself or the ones you love

▶️Reliving past failures or mistakes over and over again and you're unable to move past them

▶️Worrying about future tasks and/or goals until they feel almost impossible to accomplish

▶️Reliving a past traumatic experience (such as abuse or the loss of a loved one) leaving you unable to cope with it

▶️An inability to slow down the racing of vague thoughts, worries or emotions

HOW TO OVERCOME OVERTHINKING

➡️Don't think of what can go wrong, but what can go right.

➡️Distract yourself into happiness. Meditate of positive outcome. 

➡️Stop waiting for perfection.

➡️Accept your best. Celebrate your little wins

➡️Know you are a work in progress,you are not above making mistake.

➡️Be grateful for what you have as you wait for what you are expecting

Stop overthinking and act now.

Don't waste Effort

1...Stop looking for who is not looking for you.

2... Stop begging.

3...Stop saying more than necessary.

4...When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.

5...Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.

6...Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't reciprocate it.

7...Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.

8... Stop entertaining gossip about other people.

9...Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.

10... Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.

11... Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals

12...Respect your time.

13... Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away.

14... Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you.

15... Be scarce sometimes.

16...Be a giver more than a receiver.

17...Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome.

18...Treat people exactly the way they deserve.

19... Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.

20...Be good at what you do.